我将使用SQL Server Management Studio中的数据库图表功能，但既然你排除了它-这在SQL Server 2008中为我工作(没有2005)。

获取引用表和列名的列表…

select 
    t.name as TableWithForeignKey, 
    fk.constraint_column_id as FK_PartNo, c.
    name as ForeignKeyColumn 
from 
    sys.foreign_key_columns as fk
inner join 
    sys.tables as t on fk.parent_object_id = t.object_id
inner join 
    sys.columns as c on fk.parent_object_id = c.object_id and fk.parent_column_id = c.column_id
where 
    fk.referenced_object_id = (select object_id 
                               from sys.tables 
                               where name = 'TableOthersForeignKeyInto')
order by 
    TableWithForeignKey, FK_PartNo

获取外键约束的名称

select distinct name from sys.objects where object_id in 
(   select fk.constraint_object_id from sys.foreign_key_columns as fk
    where fk.referenced_object_id = 
        (select object_id from sys.tables where name = 'TableOthersForeignKeyInto')
)

这个答案建立在sp_fkeys的基础上，但格式化类似于sp_fkeys，适用于多个列并列出它们的顺序。

SELECT fk_obj.name    AS FK_NAME,
       pk_schema.name AS PKTABLE_OWNER,
       pk_table.name  AS PKTABLE_NAME,
       pk_column.name AS PKCOLUMN_NAME,
       fk_schema.name AS FKTABLE_OWNER,
       fk_table.name  AS FKTABLE_NAME,
       fk_column.name AS FKCOLUMN_NAME,
       ROW_NUMBER() over (
           PARTITION BY fk_obj.name, fk_schema.name
           ORDER BY fkc.constraint_column_id
           )          AS KEY_SEQ
FROM sys.foreign_key_columns fkc
         INNER JOIN sys.objects fk_obj
                    ON fk_obj.object_id = fkc.constraint_object_id
         INNER JOIN sys.tables fk_table
                    ON fk_table.object_id = fkc.parent_object_id
         INNER JOIN sys.schemas fk_schema
                    ON fk_table.schema_id = fk_schema.schema_id
         INNER JOIN sys.columns fk_column
                    ON fk_column.column_id = parent_column_id
                        AND fk_column.object_id = fk_table.object_id
         INNER JOIN sys.tables pk_table
                    ON pk_table.object_id = fkc.referenced_object_id
         INNER JOIN sys.schemas pk_schema
                    ON pk_table.schema_id = pk_schema.schema_id
         INNER JOIN sys.columns pk_column
                    ON pk_column.column_id = fkc.referenced_column_id
                        AND pk_column.object_id = pk_table.object_id;

确定数据库中所有表的主键和唯一键…

这应该列出所有的约束条件，在最后你可以放入过滤器

/* CAST IS DONE , SO THAT OUTPUT INTEXT FILE REMAINS WITH SCREEN LIMIT*/
WITH   ALL_KEYS_IN_TABLE (CONSTRAINT_NAME,CONSTRAINT_TYPE,PARENT_TABLE_NAME,PARENT_COL_NAME,PARENT_COL_NAME_DATA_TYPE,REFERENCE_TABLE_NAME,REFERENCE_COL_NAME) 
AS
(
SELECT  CONSTRAINT_NAME= CAST (PKnUKEY.name AS VARCHAR(30)) ,
        CONSTRAINT_TYPE=CAST (PKnUKEY.type_desc AS VARCHAR(30)) ,
        PARENT_TABLE_NAME=CAST (PKnUTable.name AS VARCHAR(30)) ,
        PARENT_COL_NAME=CAST ( PKnUKEYCol.name AS VARCHAR(30)) ,
        PARENT_COL_NAME_DATA_TYPE=  oParentColDtl.DATA_TYPE,        
        REFERENCE_TABLE_NAME='' ,
        REFERENCE_COL_NAME='' 

FROM sys.key_constraints as PKnUKEY
    INNER JOIN sys.tables as PKnUTable
            ON PKnUTable.object_id = PKnUKEY.parent_object_id
    INNER JOIN sys.index_columns as PKnUColIdx
            ON PKnUColIdx.object_id = PKnUTable.object_id
            AND PKnUColIdx.index_id = PKnUKEY.unique_index_id
    INNER JOIN sys.columns as PKnUKEYCol
            ON PKnUKEYCol.object_id = PKnUTable.object_id
            AND PKnUKEYCol.column_id = PKnUColIdx.column_id
     INNER JOIN INFORMATION_SCHEMA.COLUMNS oParentColDtl
            ON oParentColDtl.TABLE_NAME=PKnUTable.name
            AND oParentColDtl.COLUMN_NAME=PKnUKEYCol.name
UNION ALL
SELECT  CONSTRAINT_NAME= CAST (oConstraint.name AS VARCHAR(30)) ,
        CONSTRAINT_TYPE='FK',
        PARENT_TABLE_NAME=CAST (oParent.name AS VARCHAR(30)) ,
        PARENT_COL_NAME=CAST ( oParentCol.name AS VARCHAR(30)) ,
        PARENT_COL_NAME_DATA_TYPE= oParentColDtl.DATA_TYPE,     
        REFERENCE_TABLE_NAME=CAST ( oReference.name AS VARCHAR(30)) ,
        REFERENCE_COL_NAME=CAST (oReferenceCol.name AS VARCHAR(30)) 
FROM sys.foreign_key_columns FKC
    INNER JOIN sys.sysobjects oConstraint
            ON FKC.constraint_object_id=oConstraint.id 
    INNER JOIN sys.sysobjects oParent
            ON FKC.parent_object_id=oParent.id
    INNER JOIN sys.all_columns oParentCol
            ON FKC.parent_object_id=oParentCol.object_id /* ID of the object to which this column belongs.*/
            AND FKC.parent_column_id=oParentCol.column_id/* ID of the column. Is unique within the object.Column IDs might not be sequential.*/
    INNER JOIN sys.sysobjects oReference
            ON FKC.referenced_object_id=oReference.id
    INNER JOIN INFORMATION_SCHEMA.COLUMNS oParentColDtl
            ON oParentColDtl.TABLE_NAME=oParent.name
            AND oParentColDtl.COLUMN_NAME=oParentCol.name
    INNER JOIN sys.all_columns oReferenceCol
            ON FKC.referenced_object_id=oReferenceCol.object_id /* ID of the object to which this column belongs.*/
            AND FKC.referenced_column_id=oReferenceCol.column_id/* ID of the column. Is unique within the object.Column IDs might not be sequential.*/

)

select * from   ALL_KEYS_IN_TABLE
where   
    PARENT_TABLE_NAME  in ('YOUR_TABLE_NAME') 
    or REFERENCE_TABLE_NAME  in ('YOUR_TABLE_NAME')
ORDER BY PARENT_TABLE_NAME,CONSTRAINT_NAME;

如需参考，请阅读http://blogs.msdn.com/b/sqltips/archive/2005/09/16/469136.aspx

Oracle SQL

select *
from
    all_constraints
where
    r_constraint_name in
    (select       constraint_name
    from
       all_constraints
    where
       table_name='PUT_THE_TABLE_NAME_HERE');

all_constraints是Oracle DB中的一个固有表名。

SELECT
  object_name(parent_object_id),
  object_name(referenced_object_id),
  name 
FROM sys.foreign_keys
WHERE parent_object_id = object_id('Table Name')

试试这个:

sp_help 'TableName'