这就是最后对我有用的方法:

binding.rows.addItemDecoration(object: RecyclerView.ItemDecoration() {
    val px = resources.getDimensionPixelSize(R.dimen.grid_spacing)
    val spanCount = 2

    override fun getItemOffsets(outRect: Rect, view: View, parent: RecyclerView, state: RecyclerView.State) {
        val index = parent.getChildLayoutPosition(view)
        val isLeft = (index % spanCount == 0)
        outRect.set(
            if (isLeft) px else px/2,
            0,
            if (isLeft) px/2 else px,
            px
        )
    }
})

因为我只有2列(val spanCount = 2)，我可以只做isLeft。如果有> 2列，那么我也需要一个isMiddle，两边的值都是px/2。

我希望有一种方法来获得应用程序:spanCount从直接从RecyclerView，但我不相信有。

只有一个简单的解决方案，您可以记住并在任何需要的地方实施。没有bug，没有疯狂的计算。在卡片/物品布局中放置空白，并在RecyclerView中放置相同大小的填充:

item_layout.xml

<CardView
    android:layout_width="match_parent"
    android:layout_height="wrap_content"
    android:margin="10dp">

activity_layout.xml

<RecyclerView
    android:layout_width="match_parent"
    android:layout_height="wrap_content"
    android:padding="10dp"/>

更新:

Yqritc的回答非常适合我。我用的是Kotlin，这里有一个等价物。

class ItemOffsetDecoration : RecyclerView.ItemDecoration  {

    // amount to add to padding
    private val _itemOffset: Int

    constructor(itemOffset: Int) {
        _itemOffset = itemOffset
    }

    constructor(@NonNull context: Context, @DimenRes itemOffsetId: Int){
       _itemOffset = context.resources.getDimensionPixelSize(itemOffsetId)
    }

    /**
     * Applies padding to all sides of the [Rect], which is the container for the view
     */
    override fun getItemOffsets(outRect: Rect, view: View, parent: RecyclerView,state: RecyclerView.State) {
        super.getItemOffsets(outRect, view, parent, state)
        outRect.set(_itemOffset, _itemOffset, _itemOffset, _itemOffset)
    }
}

其他一切都是一样的。

如果你使用Header和GridLayoutManager，使用以下代码在Kotlin中编写的网格间距:

inner class SpacesItemDecoration(itemSpace: Int) : RecyclerView.ItemDecoration() {

    var space: Int = itemSpace

    override fun getItemOffsets(outRect: Rect?, view: View?, parent: RecyclerView?, state: RecyclerView.State?) {
        super.getItemOffsets(outRect, view, parent, state)
        val position = parent!!.getChildAdapterPosition(view)
        val viewType = parent.adapter.getItemViewType(position)
        
        // Check to not to set any margin to header item 
        if (viewType == GridViewAdapter.TYPE_HEADER) {
            outRect!!.top = 0
            outRect.left = 0
            outRect.right = 0
            outRect.bottom = 0
        } else {
            outRect!!.left = space
            outRect.right = space
            outRect.bottom = space

            if (parent.getChildLayoutPosition(view) == 0) {
                outRect.top = space
            } else {
                outRect.top = 0
            }
        }
    }
}

并将ItemDecoration传递给RecyclerView为:

gridView.addItemDecoration(SpacesItemDecoration(10))

如果你想要物品周围的间距和物品大小相等，下面是一步一步的简单解决方案。

ItemOffsetDecoration

public class ItemOffsetDecoration extends RecyclerView.ItemDecoration {

    private int mItemOffset;

    public ItemOffsetDecoration(int itemOffset) {
        mItemOffset = itemOffset;
    }

    public ItemOffsetDecoration(@NonNull Context context, @DimenRes int itemOffsetId) {
        this(context.getResources().getDimensionPixelSize(itemOffsetId));
    }

    @Override
    public void getItemOffsets(Rect outRect, View view, RecyclerView parent,
            RecyclerView.State state) {
        super.getItemOffsets(outRect, view, parent, state);
        outRect.set(mItemOffset, mItemOffset, mItemOffset, mItemOffset);
    }
}

实现

在源代码中，将ItemOffsetDecoration添加到RecyclerView中。 项偏移值应该是实际值的一半大小，作为项之间的空间。

mRecyclerView.setLayoutManager(new GridLayoutManager(context, NUM_COLUMNS);
ItemOffsetDecoration itemDecoration = new ItemOffsetDecoration(context, R.dimen.item_offset);
mRecyclerView.addItemDecoration(itemDecoration);

同样，设置项目偏移值为itsRecyclerView的填充，并指定android:clipToPadding=false。

<android.support.v7.widget.RecyclerView
    android:id="@+id/recyclerview_grid"
    android:layout_width="match_parent"
    android:layout_height="match_parent"
    android:clipToPadding="false"
    android:padding="@dimen/item_offset"/>

这是我对SpacesItemDecoration的修改，它可以在顶部，底部，左边和右边同样采取numofcolumns和空间。

public class SpacesItemDecoration extends RecyclerView.ItemDecoration {
    private int space;
    private int mNumCol;

    public SpacesItemDecoration(int space, int numCol) {
        this.space = space;
        this.mNumCol=numCol;
    }

    @Override
    public void getItemOffsets(Rect outRect, View view,
                               RecyclerView parent, RecyclerView.State state) {

        //outRect.right = space;
        outRect.bottom = space;
        //outRect.left = space;

        //Log.d("ttt", "item position" + parent.getChildLayoutPosition(view));
        int position=parent.getChildLayoutPosition(view);

        if(mNumCol<=2) {
            if (position == 0) {
                outRect.left = space;
                outRect.right = space / 2;
            } else {
                if ((position % mNumCol) != 0) {
                    outRect.left = space / 2;
                    outRect.right = space;
                } else {
                    outRect.left = space;
                    outRect.right = space / 2;
                }
            }
        }else{
            if (position == 0) {
                outRect.left = space;
                outRect.right = space / 2;
            } else {
                if ((position % mNumCol) == 0) {
                    outRect.left = space;
                    outRect.right = space/2;
                } else if((position % mNumCol) == (mNumCol-1)){
                    outRect.left = space/2;
                    outRect.right = space;
                }else{
                    outRect.left=space/2;
                    outRect.right=space/2;
                }
            }

        }

        if(position<mNumCol){
            outRect.top=space;
        }else{
            outRect.top=0;
        }
        // Add top margin only for the first item to avoid double space between items
        /*
        if (parent.getChildLayoutPosition(view) == 0 ) {

        } else {
            outRect.top = 0;
        }*/
    }
}

并在逻辑上使用下面的代码。

recyclerView.addItemDecoration(new SpacesItemDecoration(spacingInPixels, numCol));