这就是最后对我有用的方法:

binding.rows.addItemDecoration(object: RecyclerView.ItemDecoration() {
    val px = resources.getDimensionPixelSize(R.dimen.grid_spacing)
    val spanCount = 2

    override fun getItemOffsets(outRect: Rect, view: View, parent: RecyclerView, state: RecyclerView.State) {
        val index = parent.getChildLayoutPosition(view)
        val isLeft = (index % spanCount == 0)
        outRect.set(
            if (isLeft) px else px/2,
            0,
            if (isLeft) px/2 else px,
            px
        )
    }
})

因为我只有2列(val spanCount = 2)，我可以只做isLeft。如果有> 2列，那么我也需要一个isMiddle，两边的值都是px/2。

我希望有一种方法来获得应用程序:spanCount从直接从RecyclerView，但我不相信有。

如果你想在所有设备中固定你的RecyclerView项的大小。你可以这样做

public class GridSpacingItemDecoration extends RecyclerView.ItemDecoration {

    private int mSpanCount;
    private float mItemSize;

    public GridSpacingItemDecoration(int spanCount, int itemSize) {
        this.mSpanCount = spanCount;
        mItemSize = itemSize;
    }

    @Override
    public void getItemOffsets(final Rect outRect, final View view, RecyclerView parent,
            RecyclerView.State state) {
        final int position = parent.getChildLayoutPosition(view);
        final int column = position % mSpanCount;
        final int parentWidth = parent.getWidth();
        int spacing = (int) (parentWidth - (mItemSize * mSpanCount)) / (mSpanCount + 1);
        outRect.left = spacing - column * spacing / mSpanCount;
        outRect.right = (column + 1) * spacing / mSpanCount;

        if (position < mSpanCount) {
            outRect.top = spacing;
        }
        outRect.bottom = spacing;
    }
}

recyclerview_item.xml

<LinearLayout
    xmlns:android="http://schemas.android.com/apk/res/android"
    android:layout_width="@dimen/recycler_view_item_width" 
    ...
    >
    ...
</LinearLayout>

dimens.xml

 <dimen name="recycler_view_item_width">60dp</dimen>

活动

int numberOfColumns = 3;
mRecyclerView.setLayoutManager(new GridLayoutManager(this, numberOfColumns));
mRecyclerView.setAdapter(...);
mRecyclerView.addItemDecoration(new GridSpacingItemDecoration(3,
        getResources().getDimensionPixelSize(R.dimen.recycler_view_item_width)));

对于那些有问题的staggeredLayoutManager(如https://imgur.com/XVutH5u)

recyclerView的方法:

getChildAdapterPosition(view)
getChildLayoutPosition(view)

有时返回-1作为索引，所以我们可能会遇到设置itemDecor的麻烦。我的解决方案是覆盖已弃用的ItemDecoration的方法:

public void getItemOffsets(Rect outRect, int itemPosition, RecyclerView parent)

而不是新手:

public void getItemOffsets(Rect outRect, View view, RecyclerView parent, State state)

是这样的:

recyclerView.addItemDecoration(new RecyclerView.ItemDecoration() {
            @Override
            public void getItemOffsets(Rect outRect, int itemPosition, RecyclerView parent) {
                TheAdapter.VH vh = (TheAdapter.VH) recyclerView.findViewHolderForAdapterPosition(itemPosition);
                View itemView = vh.itemView;    //itemView is the base view of viewHolder
                //or instead of the 2 lines above maybe it's possible to use  View itemView = layoutManager.findViewByPosition(itemPosition)  ... NOT TESTED

                StaggeredGridLayoutManager.LayoutParams itemLayoutParams = (StaggeredGridLayoutManager.LayoutParams) itemView.getLayoutParams();

                int spanIndex = itemLayoutParams.getSpanIndex();

                if (spanIndex == 0)
                    ...
                else
                    ...
            }
        });

到目前为止似乎对我有用:)

如果你使用Header和GridLayoutManager，使用以下代码在Kotlin中编写的网格间距:

inner class SpacesItemDecoration(itemSpace: Int) : RecyclerView.ItemDecoration() {

    var space: Int = itemSpace

    override fun getItemOffsets(outRect: Rect?, view: View?, parent: RecyclerView?, state: RecyclerView.State?) {
        super.getItemOffsets(outRect, view, parent, state)
        val position = parent!!.getChildAdapterPosition(view)
        val viewType = parent.adapter.getItemViewType(position)
        
        // Check to not to set any margin to header item 
        if (viewType == GridViewAdapter.TYPE_HEADER) {
            outRect!!.top = 0
            outRect.left = 0
            outRect.right = 0
            outRect.bottom = 0
        } else {
            outRect!!.left = space
            outRect.right = space
            outRect.bottom = space

            if (parent.getChildLayoutPosition(view) == 0) {
                outRect.top = space
            } else {
                outRect.top = 0
            }
        }
    }
}

并将ItemDecoration传递给RecyclerView为:

gridView.addItemDecoration(SpacesItemDecoration(10))

复制@edwardaa提供的代码，我使它完美地支持RTL:

public class GridSpacingItemDecoration extends RecyclerView.ItemDecoration {
    private int spanCount;
    private int spacing;
    private boolean includeEdge;
    private int headerNum;
    private boolean isRtl = TextUtilsCompat.getLayoutDirectionFromLocale(Locale.getDefault()) == ViewCompat.LAYOUT_DIRECTION_RTL;

    public GridSpacingItemDecoration(int spanCount, int spacing, boolean includeEdge, int headerNum) {
        this.spanCount = spanCount;
        this.spacing = spacing;
        this.includeEdge = includeEdge;
        this.headerNum = headerNum;
    }

    @Override
    public void getItemOffsets(Rect outRect, View view, RecyclerView parent, RecyclerView.State state) {
        int position = parent.getChildAdapterPosition(view) - headerNum; // item position
        if (position >= 0) {
            int column = position % spanCount; // item column
            if(isRtl) {
                column = spanCount - 1 - column;
            }
            if (includeEdge) {
                outRect.left = spacing - column * spacing / spanCount; // spacing - column * ((1f / spanCount) * spacing)
                outRect.right = (column + 1) * spacing / spanCount; // (column + 1) * ((1f / spanCount) * spacing)

                if (position < spanCount) { // top edge
                    outRect.top = spacing;
                }
                outRect.bottom = spacing; // item bottom
            } else {
                outRect.left = column * spacing / spanCount; // column * ((1f / spanCount) * spacing)
                outRect.right = spacing - (column + 1) * spacing / spanCount; // spacing - (column + 1) * ((1f /    spanCount) * spacing)
                if (position >= spanCount) {
                    outRect.top = spacing; // item top
                }
            }
        } else {
            outRect.left = 0;
            outRect.right = 0;
            outRect.top = 0;
            outRect.bottom = 0;
        }
    }
}

对我来说，完美的解决方案是设置RecyclerView的宽度它的layoutmanager为GridLayoutManager为wrap_content