选择的答案几乎是完美的，但根据空间的不同，项目的宽度可能不相等。(对我来说，这很关键)。所以我最终用这个代码增加了一点空间，所以项目都是相同的宽度。

   class GridSpacingItemDecoration(private val columnCount: Int, @Px preferredSpace: Int, private val includeEdge: Boolean): RecyclerView.ItemDecoration() {

    /**
     * In this algorithm space should divide by 3 without remnant or width of items can have a difference
     * and we want them to be exactly the same
     */
    private val space = if (preferredSpace % 3 == 0) preferredSpace else (preferredSpace + (3 - preferredSpace % 3))

    override fun getItemOffsets(outRect: Rect, view: View, parent: RecyclerView, state: RecyclerView.State?) {
        val position = parent.getChildAdapterPosition(view)

        if (includeEdge) {

            when {
                position % columnCount == 0 -> {
                    outRect.left = space
                    outRect.right = space / 3
                }
                position % columnCount == columnCount - 1 -> {
                    outRect.right = space
                    outRect.left = space / 3
                }
                else -> {
                    outRect.left = space * 2 / 3
                    outRect.right = space * 2 / 3
                }
            }

            if (position < columnCount) {
                outRect.top = space
            }

            outRect.bottom = space

        } else {

            when {
                position % columnCount == 0 -> outRect.right = space * 2 / 3
                position % columnCount == columnCount - 1 -> outRect.left = space * 2 / 3
                else -> {
                    outRect.left = space / 3
                    outRect.right = space / 3
                }
            }

            if (position >= columnCount) {
                outRect.top = space
            }
        }
    }

}

为了使https://stackoverflow.com/a/29905000/1649371(上面)解决方案工作，我必须修改以下方法(以及所有后续调用)

@SuppressWarnings("all")
protected int getItemSpanSize(RecyclerView parent, View view, int childIndex) {

    RecyclerView.LayoutManager mgr = parent.getLayoutManager();
    if (mgr instanceof GridLayoutManager) {
        return ((GridLayoutManager) mgr).getSpanSizeLookup().getSpanSize(childIndex);
    } else if (mgr instanceof StaggeredGridLayoutManager) {
        return ((StaggeredGridLayoutManager.LayoutParams) view.getLayoutParams()).isFullSpan() ? spanCount : 1;
    } else if (mgr instanceof LinearLayoutManager) {
        return 1;
    }

    return -1;
}

@SuppressWarnings("all")
protected int getItemSpanIndex(RecyclerView parent, View view, int childIndex) {

    RecyclerView.LayoutManager mgr = parent.getLayoutManager();
    if (mgr instanceof GridLayoutManager) {
        return ((GridLayoutManager) mgr).getSpanSizeLookup().getSpanIndex(childIndex, spanCount);
    } else if (mgr instanceof StaggeredGridLayoutManager) {
        return ((StaggeredGridLayoutManager.LayoutParams) view.getLayoutParams()).getSpanIndex();
    } else if (mgr instanceof LinearLayoutManager) {
        return 0;
    }

    return -1;
}

感谢edwardaa的回答https://stackoverflow.com/a/30701422/2227031

另一点需要注意的是:

如果total spacing和total itemWidth不等于屏幕宽度，您还需要调整itemWidth，例如，在适配器onBindViewHolder方法

Utils.init(_mActivity);
int width = 0;
if (includeEdge) {
    width = ScreenUtils.getScreenWidth() - spacing * (spanCount + 1);
} else {
    width = ScreenUtils.getScreenWidth() - spacing * (spanCount - 1);
}
int itemWidth = width / spanCount;

ConstraintLayout.LayoutParams layoutParams = (ConstraintLayout.LayoutParams) holder.imageViewAvatar.getLayoutParams();
// suppose the width and height are the same
layoutParams.width = itemWidth;
layoutParams.height = itemWidth;
holder.imageViewAvatar.setLayoutParams(layoutParams);

Yqritc的回答非常适合我。我用的是Kotlin，这里有一个等价物。

class ItemOffsetDecoration : RecyclerView.ItemDecoration  {

    // amount to add to padding
    private val _itemOffset: Int

    constructor(itemOffset: Int) {
        _itemOffset = itemOffset
    }

    constructor(@NonNull context: Context, @DimenRes itemOffsetId: Int){
       _itemOffset = context.resources.getDimensionPixelSize(itemOffsetId)
    }

    /**
     * Applies padding to all sides of the [Rect], which is the container for the view
     */
    override fun getItemOffsets(outRect: Rect, view: View, parent: RecyclerView,state: RecyclerView.State) {
        super.getItemOffsets(outRect, view, parent, state)
        outRect.set(_itemOffset, _itemOffset, _itemOffset, _itemOffset)
    }
}

其他一切都是一样的。

下面的代码工作得很好，每个列都有相同的宽度:

public class GridSpacingItemDecoration extends RecyclerView.ItemDecoration {

    private int spanCount;
    private int spacing;
    private boolean includeEdge;

    public GridSpacingItemDecoration(int spanCount, int spacing, boolean includeEdge) {
        this.spanCount = spanCount;
        this.spacing = spacing;
        this.includeEdge = includeEdge;
    }

    @Override
    public void getItemOffsets(Rect outRect, View view, RecyclerView parent, RecyclerView.State state) {
        int position = parent.getChildAdapterPosition(view); // item position
        int column = position % spanCount; // item column

        if (includeEdge) {
            outRect.left = spacing - column * spacing / spanCount; // spacing - column * ((1f / spanCount) * spacing)
            outRect.right = (column + 1) * spacing / spanCount; // (column + 1) * ((1f / spanCount) * spacing)

            if (position < spanCount) { // top edge
                outRect.top = spacing;
            }
            outRect.bottom = spacing; // item bottom
        } else {
            outRect.left = column * spacing / spanCount; // column * ((1f / spanCount) * spacing)
            outRect.right = spacing - (column + 1) * spacing / spanCount; // spacing - (column + 1) * ((1f /    spanCount) * spacing)
            if (position >= spanCount) {
                outRect.top = spacing; // item top
            }
        }
    }
}

使用

1. 没有优势

int spanCount = 3; // 3 columns
int spacing = 50; // 50px
boolean includeEdge = false;
recyclerView.addItemDecoration(new GridSpacingItemDecoration(spanCount, spacing, includeEdge));

2. 与边缘

int spanCount = 3; // 3 columns
int spacing = 50; // 50px
boolean includeEdge = true;
recyclerView.addItemDecoration(new GridSpacingItemDecoration(spanCount, spacing, includeEdge));

如果你有一个在列表和网格之间切换的拨动开关，不要忘记在设置任何新的项目装饰之前调用recyclerView.removeItemDecoration(..)。如果不是这样，那么新的间隔计算将是不正确的。

就像这样:

recyclerView.removeItemDecoration(gridItemDecorator)
recyclerView.removeItemDecoration(listItemDecorator)

if (showAsList) {
    recyclerView.layoutManager = LinearLayoutManager(this, LinearLayoutManager.VERTICAL, false)
    recyclerView.addItemDecoration(listItemDecorator)
} else {
    recyclerView.layoutManager = GridLayoutManager(this, spanCount)
    recyclerView.addItemDecoration(gridItemDecorator)
}