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想分享的成果，主要来源于关注camickr的链接。基本上我需要抛出一个WindowEvent。应用程序事件队列上的WINDOW_CLOSING。下面是解决方案的概要

// closing down the window makes sense as a method, so here are
// the salient parts of what happens with the JFrame extending class ..

    public class FooWindow extends JFrame {
        public FooWindow() {
            setDefaultCloseOperation(JFrame.EXIT_ON_CLOSE);
            setBounds(5, 5, 400, 300);  // yeah yeah, this is an example ;P
            setVisible(true);
        }
        public void pullThePlug() {
                WindowEvent wev = new WindowEvent(this, WindowEvent.WINDOW_CLOSING);
                Toolkit.getDefaultToolkit().getSystemEventQueue().postEvent(wev);
        }
    }

// Here's how that would be employed from elsewhere -

    // someplace the window gets created ..
    FooWindow fooey = new FooWindow();
    ...
    // and someplace else, you can close it thusly
    fooey.pullThePlug();

本示例演示了如何实现确认窗口关闭操作。

窗口有一个窗口适配器，它将默认关闭操作切换为exit_on_close或DO_NOTHING_ON_CLOSE，这取决于您在OptionDialog中的答案。

ConfirmedCloseWindow的closeWindow方法触发关闭窗口事件，可以在任何地方使用，即作为菜单项的动作

public class WindowConfirmedCloseAdapter extends WindowAdapter {

    public void windowClosing(WindowEvent e) {

        Object options[] = {"Yes", "No"};

        int close = JOptionPane.showOptionDialog(e.getComponent(),
                "Really want to close this application?\n", "Attention",
                JOptionPane.YES_NO_OPTION,
                JOptionPane.INFORMATION_MESSAGE,
                null,
                options,
                null);

        if(close == JOptionPane.YES_OPTION) {
           ((JFrame)e.getSource()).setDefaultCloseOperation(
                   JFrame.EXIT_ON_CLOSE);
        } else {
           ((JFrame)e.getSource()).setDefaultCloseOperation(
                   JFrame.DO_NOTHING_ON_CLOSE);
        }
    }
}

public class ConfirmedCloseWindow extends JFrame {

    public ConfirmedCloseWindow() {

        addWindowListener(new WindowConfirmedCloseAdapter());
    }

    private void closeWindow() {
        processWindowEvent(new WindowEvent(this, WindowEvent.WINDOW_CLOSING));
    }
}

退出Java运行过程非常简单，基本上你只需要做两件简单的事情:

在应用程序的退出点调用java方法System.exit(…) 例如，如果你的应用程序是基于框架的，你可以添加监听器WindowAdapter，并在它的方法windowClosing(WindowEvent e)中调用System.exit(…)。

注意:你必须调用System.exit(…)否则你的程序会出错。

避免意外的java异常，以确保始终可以调用exit方法。 如果您在正确的位置添加System.exit(…)，但这并不意味着该方法可以始终被调用，因为意外的java异常可能会阻止该方法被调用。

这与你的编程技能密切相关。

**下面是一个最简单的示例(基于JFrame)，它向您展示了如何调用退出方法

import java.awt.event.*;
import javax.swing.*;

public class ExitApp extends JFrame
{
   public ExitApp()
   {
      addWindowListener(new WindowAdapter()
      {
         public void windowClosing(WindowEvent e)
         {
           dispose();
           System.exit(0); //calling the method is a must
         }
      });
   }

   public static void main(String[] args)
   {
      ExitApp app=new ExitApp();
      app.setBounds(133,100,532,400);
      app.setVisible(true);
   }
}

 setDefaultCloseOperation(JFrame.DISPOSE_ON_CLOSE);

我已经尝试过了，为formWindowClosing()事件编写自己的代码。

 private void formWindowClosing(java.awt.event.WindowEvent evt) {                                   
    int selectedOption = JOptionPane.showConfirmDialog(null,
            "Do you want to exit?",
            "FrameToClose",
            JOptionPane.YES_NO_OPTION);
    if (selectedOption == JOptionPane.YES_OPTION) {
        setVisible(false);
        dispose();
    } else {
        setDefaultCloseOperation(javax.swing.WindowConstants.DO_NOTHING_ON_CLOSE);
    }
}    

这将询问用户是否要退出框架或应用程序。

如果你这样做是为了确保用户不能关闭窗口:

frame.setDefaultCloseOperation(JFrame.DO_NOTHING_ON_CLOSE);

然后您应该将pullThePlug()方法更改为

public void pullThePlug() {
    // this will make sure WindowListener.windowClosing() et al. will be called.
    WindowEvent wev = new WindowEvent(this, WindowEvent.WINDOW_CLOSING);
    Toolkit.getDefaultToolkit().getSystemEventQueue().postEvent(wev);

    // this will hide and dispose the frame, so that the application quits by
    // itself if there is nothing else around. 
    setVisible(false);
    dispose();
    // if you have other similar frames around, you should dispose them, too.

    // finally, call this to really exit. 
    // i/o libraries such as WiiRemoteJ need this. 
    // also, this is what swing does for JFrame.EXIT_ON_CLOSE
    System.exit(0); 
}

我发现这是唯一的方法，发挥良好的WindowListener和JFrame.DO_NOTHING_ON_CLOSE。