当表视图样式是普通的，这很容易，但在组样式，这是一个小麻烦，我解决它:

CGFloat cellHeight = [self tableView:tableView heightForRowAtIndexPath:indexPath];
UIView *view = [[UIView alloc] initWithFrame:CGRectMake(0, 0, kGroupTableViewCellWidth+2, cellHeight)];
view.backgroundColor = kCommonHighlightedColor;
cell.selectedBackgroundView = view;
[view release];
UIRectCorner cornerFlag = 0;
CGSize radii = CGSizeMake(0, 0);
NSInteger theLastRow = --> (yourDataSourceArray.count - 1);
if (indexPath.row == 0) {
    cornerFlag = UIRectCornerTopLeft | UIRectCornerTopRight;
    radii = CGSizeMake(10, 10);
} else if (indexPath.row == theLastRow) {
    cornerFlag = UIRectCornerBottomLeft | UIRectCornerBottomRight;
    radii = CGSizeMake(10, 10);
}
UIBezierPath *maskPath = [UIBezierPath bezierPathWithRoundedRect:view.bounds byRoundingCorners:cornerFlag cornerRadii:radii];
CAShapeLayer *shapeLayer = [CAShapeLayer layer];
shapeLayer.path = maskPath.CGPath;
view.layer.mask = shapeLayer;

注意到kGroupTableViewCellWidth，我把它定义为300，这是iPhone中组表视图单元格的宽度

为所有单元格添加背景(使用Maciej的答案):

for (int section = 0; section < [self.tableView numberOfSections]; section++) {
        for (int row = 0; row < [self.tableView numberOfRowsInSection:section]; row++) {
            NSIndexPath* cellPath = [NSIndexPath indexPathForRow:row inSection:section];
            UITableViewCell* cell = [self.tableView cellForRowAtIndexPath:cellPath];

            //stuff to do with each cell
            UIView *bgColorView = [[UIView alloc] init];
            bgColorView.backgroundColor = [UIColor redColor];
            [cell setSelectedBackgroundView:bgColorView];
        }
    } 

override func setSelected(selected: Bool, animated: Bool) {
    // Configure the view for the selected state

    super.setSelected(selected, animated: animated)
    let selView = UIView()

    selView.backgroundColor = UIColor( red: 5/255, green: 159/255, blue:223/255, alpha: 1.0 )
    self.selectedBackgroundView = selView
}

我使用下面的方法，对我来说很好，

class MyTableViewCell : UITableViewCell {

                var defaultStateColor:UIColor?
                var hitStateColor:UIColor?

                 override func awakeFromNib(){
                     super.awakeFromNib()
                     self.selectionStyle = .None
                 }

// if you are overriding init you should set selectionStyle = .None

                override func touchesBegan(touches: Set<UITouch>, withEvent event: UIEvent?) {
                    if let hitColor = hitStateColor {
                        self.contentView.backgroundColor = hitColor
                    }
                }

                override func touchesEnded(touches: Set<UITouch>, withEvent event: UIEvent?) {
                    if let defaultColor = defaultStateColor {
                        self.contentView.backgroundColor = defaultColor
                    }
                }

                override func touchesCancelled(touches: Set<UITouch>?, withEvent event: UIEvent?) {
                    if let defaultColor = defaultStateColor {
                        self.contentView.backgroundColor = defaultColor
                    }
                }
            }

我认为你在正确的轨道上，但根据selectedBackgroundView的类定义:

对于普通样式表(UITableViewStylePlain)中的单元格，默认为nil，对于section-group表(UITableViewStyleGrouped)中的单元格，默认为非nil。

因此，如果你使用的是普通样式的表，那么你需要alloc-init一个新的UIView，有你想要的背景颜色，然后分配给selectedBackgroundView。

或者，如果你想要的是灰色背景当单元格被选中时，你可以使用这个:

cell.selectionStyle = UITableViewCellSelectionStyleGray;

如果您想向单元格添加自定义高亮显示的颜色(且单元格包含按钮、标签、图像等)。我按照下面的步骤:

例如，如果你想要一个选定的黄色:

1)创建一个适合所有不透明度为20%的单元格(黄色)的视图，例如backgroundselectedView

2)在单元控制器中这样写:

- (void)touchesBegan:(NSSet *)touches withEvent:(UIEvent *)event
{
     self.backgroundselectedView.alpha=1;
    [super touchesBegan:touches withEvent:event];
}

- (void)touchesEnded:(NSSet *)touches withEvent:(UIEvent *)event
{
    self.backgroundselectedView.alpha=0;
    [super touchesEnded:touches withEvent:event];
}

- (void)touchesCancelled:(NSSet *)touches withEvent:(UIEvent *)event
{
    self.backgroundSelectedImage.alpha=0;
    [super touchesCancelled:touches withEvent:event];
}