套接字是软件中的一种结构。它差不多是一个文件;它有读和写这样的操作。它不是一个物理的东西;它是你的软件引用物理事物的一种方式。

端口是一个类似设备的东西。每台主机都有一个或多个网络(这些是物理网络);主机在每个网络上都有一个地址。每个地址可以有数千个端口。

只有一个套接字可能在某个地址上使用某个端口。套接字分配端口类似于为文件系统I/O分配设备。一旦分配了端口，就没有其他套接字可以连接到该端口。当套接字被关闭时，端口将被释放。

看一下TCP/IP术语。

A socket is a communication endpoint. A socket is not directly related to the TCP/IP protocol family, it can be used with any protocol your system supports. The C socket API expects you to first get a blank socket object from the system that you can then either bind to a local socket address (to directly retrieve incoming traffic for connection-less protocols or to accept incoming connection requests for connection-oriented protocols) or that you can connect to a remote socket address (for either kind of protocol). You can even do both if you want to control both, the local socket address a socket is bound to and the remote socket address a socket is connected to. For connection-less protocols connecting a socket is even optional but if you don't do that, you'll have to also pass the destination address with every packet you want to send over the socket as how else would the socket know where to send this data to? Advantage is that you can use a single socket to send packets to different socket addresses. Once you have your socket configured and maybe even connected, consider it to be a bi-directional communication pipe. You can use it to pass data to some destination and some destination can use it to pass data back to you. What you write to a socket is send out and what has been received is available for reading.

Ports on the other hand are something that only certain protocols of the TCP/IP protocol stack have. TCP and UDP packets have ports. A port is just a simple number. The combination of source port and destination port identify a communication channel between two hosts. E.g. you may have a server that shall be both, a simple HTTP server and a simple FTP server. If now a packet arrives for the address of that server, how would it know if that is a packet for the HTTP or the FTP server? Well, it will know so as the HTTP server will run on port 80 and the FTP server on port 21, so if the packet arrives with a destination port 80, it is for the HTTP server and not for the FTP server. Also the packet has a source port since without such a source port, a server could only have one connection to one IP address at a time. The source port makes it possible for a server to distinguish otherwise identical connections: they all have the same destination port, e.g. port 80, the same destination IP (the IP of the server), and the same source IP, as they all come from the same client, but as they have different source ports, the server can distinguish them from each other. And when the server sends back replies, it will do so to the port the request came from, that way the client can also distinguish different replies it receives from the same server.

从Oracle Java教程:

套接字是网络上运行的两个程序之间双向通信链路的一个端点。套接字与端口号绑定，以便TCP层可以识别数据要发送到的应用程序。

套接字基本上是网络通信的端点，至少由一个ip地址和一个端口组成。在Java/ c#中，套接字是双向连接一侧的高级实现。

还有Java教程中的一个(非规范的)定义。

单个端口可以有一个或多个连接不同外部IP的插座，如多个电源插座。

  TCP    192.168.100.2:9001     155.94.246.179:39255   ESTABLISHED     1312
  TCP    192.168.100.2:9001     171.25.193.9:61832     ESTABLISHED     1312
  TCP    192.168.100.2:9001     178.62.199.226:37912   ESTABLISHED     1312
  TCP    192.168.100.2:9001     188.193.64.150:40900   ESTABLISHED     1312
  TCP    192.168.100.2:9001     198.23.194.149:43970   ESTABLISHED     1312
  TCP    192.168.100.2:9001     198.49.73.11:38842     ESTABLISHED     1312

它们是来自两个不同领域的术语:“端口”是TCP/IP网络的概念，“套接字”是API(编程)的东西。“套接字”是通过将端口和主机名或网络适配器组合成一个数据结构(可以用来发送或接收数据)而形成的(在代码中)。