我发现了一个非常简单易行的解决办法

    fun showDialog(){
    val dialog = Dialog(this@DialogActivity)
    dialog.requestWindowFeature(Window.FEATURE_NO_TITLE)
    dialog.setCancelable(false)
    dialog.setContentView(R.layout.custom_dialog)
    val txtTitle = dialog.findViewById<TextView>(R.id.txtTitle)
    val btn  = dialog.findViewById<Button>(R.id.button)

    btn.setOnClickListener {
        Toast.makeText(this,"test",Toast.LENGTH_SHORT).show()
    }
    txtTitle.setText("ali")
    dialog.show()

    val window = dialog.window
    window?.setLayout(WindowManager.LayoutParams.MATCH_PARENT,WindowManager.LayoutParams.WRAP_CONTENT)
}

到目前为止我能想到的最简单的方法

如果你的对话框是由垂直线性布局组成的，只需添加一个“高度填充”虚拟视图，它将占据屏幕的整个高度。

例如:

<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?>
<LinearLayout xmlns:android="http://schemas.android.com/apk/res/android"
          android:orientation="vertical"
          android:layout_width="match_parent"
          android:layout_height="match_parent"
          android:weightSum="1">

    <EditText
       android:layout_width="match_parent"
       android:layout_height="wrap_content"
       android:id="@+id/editSearch" />

    <ListView
       android:layout_width="match_parent"
       android:layout_height="match_parent"
       android:id="@+id/listView"/>


   <!-- this is a dummy view that will make sure the dialog is highest -->
   <View
       android:layout_width="match_parent"
       android:layout_height="match_parent"
       android:layout_weight="1"/>

</LinearLayout>

注意LinearLayout属性中的android:weightSum="1"和dummy View属性中的android:layout_weight="1"

上面的许多答案都很好，但没有一个对我完全有效。所以我结合@nmr的答案得到了这个。

final Dialog d = new Dialog(getActivity());
        //  d.getWindow().setBackgroundDrawable(R.color.action_bar_bg);
        d.requestWindowFeature(Window.FEATURE_NO_TITLE);
        d.setContentView(R.layout.dialog_box_shipment_detail);

        WindowManager wm = (WindowManager) getActivity().getSystemService(Context.WINDOW_SERVICE); // for activity use context instead of getActivity()
        Display display = wm.getDefaultDisplay(); // getting the screen size of device
        Point size = new Point();
        display.getSize(size);
        int width = size.x - 20;  // Set your heights
        int height = size.y - 80; // set your widths

        WindowManager.LayoutParams lp = new WindowManager.LayoutParams();
        lp.copyFrom(d.getWindow().getAttributes());

        lp.width = width;
        lp.height = height;

        d.getWindow().setAttributes(lp);
        d.show();

更简单的是这样做:

int width = (int)(getResources().getDisplayMetrics().widthPixels*0.90);
int height = (int)(getResources().getDisplayMetrics().heightPixels*0.90);

alertDialog.getWindow().setLayout(width, height);

您需要使用样式@style.xml，例如CustomDialog来显示可自定义的对话框。

<style name="CustomDialog" parent="@android:style/Theme.DeviceDefault.Light.Dialog">
    <item name="android:windowIsTranslucent">true</item>
    <item name="android:windowBackground">@color/colorWhite</item>
    <item name="android:editTextColor">@color/colorBlack</item>
    <item name="android:windowContentOverlay">@null</item>
    <item name="android:windowNoTitle">true</item>
    <item name="android:backgroundDimEnabled">true</item>
    <item name="android:windowIsFloating">true</item>
    <item name="android:windowSoftInputMode">stateUnspecified|adjustPan</item>
</style>

在activity。java中使用这种样式

Dialog dialog = new Dialog(Activity.this, R.style.CustomDialog);
dialog.requestWindowFeature(Window.FEATURE_NO_TITLE);
dialog.setContentView(R.layout.custom_dialog);

你的custom_dialog.xml应该在你的布局目录中

<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?>
<LinearLayout xmlns:android="http://schemas.android.com/apk/res/android"
    android:orientation="vertical"
    android:layout_width="match_parent"
    android:layout_height="match_parent"
    android:paddingLeft="10dp"
    android:paddingRight="10dp">

    <TextView
        android:layout_width="match_parent"
        android:layout_height="wrap_content"
        android:text=""
        android:textSize="20dp"
        android:id="@+id/tittle_text_view"
        android:textColor="@color/colorBlack"
        android:layout_marginTop="20dp"
        android:layout_marginLeft="10dp"/>

    <LinearLayout
        android:layout_width="match_parent"
        android:layout_height="wrap_content"
        android:orientation="horizontal"
        android:layout_marginLeft="20dp"
        android:layout_marginBottom="10dp"
        android:layout_marginTop="20dp"
        android:layout_marginRight="20dp">

        <EditText
            android:id="@+id/edit_text_first"
            android:layout_width="50dp"
            android:layout_height="match_parent"
            android:hint="0"
            android:inputType="number" />

        <TextView
            android:id="@+id/text_view_first"
            android:layout_width="wrap_content"
            android:layout_height="match_parent"
            android:layout_marginLeft="5dp"
            android:gravity="center"/>

        <EditText
            android:id="@+id/edit_text_second"
            android:layout_width="50dp"
            android:layout_height="match_parent"
            android:hint="0"
            android:layout_marginLeft="5dp"
            android:inputType="number" />

        <TextView
            android:id="@+id/text_view_second"
            android:layout_width="wrap_content"
            android:layout_height="match_parent"
            android:layout_marginLeft="5dp"
            android:gravity="center"/>

    </LinearLayout>

</LinearLayout>

实际90%计算解:

@Override public void onStart() {
   Dialog dialog = getDialog();
   if (dialog != null) {
     dialog.getWindow()
        .setLayout((int) (getScreenWidth(getActivity()) * .9), ViewGroup.LayoutParams.MATCH_PARENT);
   }
}

其中getScreenWidth(Activity Activity)定义如下(最好放在Utils类中):

public static int getScreenWidth(Activity activity) {
   Point size = new Point();
   activity.getWindowManager().getDefaultDisplay().getSize(size);
   return size.x;
}