到目前为止我能想到的最简单的方法

如果你的对话框是由垂直线性布局组成的，只需添加一个“高度填充”虚拟视图，它将占据屏幕的整个高度。

例如:

<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?>
<LinearLayout xmlns:android="http://schemas.android.com/apk/res/android"
          android:orientation="vertical"
          android:layout_width="match_parent"
          android:layout_height="match_parent"
          android:weightSum="1">

    <EditText
       android:layout_width="match_parent"
       android:layout_height="wrap_content"
       android:id="@+id/editSearch" />

    <ListView
       android:layout_width="match_parent"
       android:layout_height="match_parent"
       android:id="@+id/listView"/>


   <!-- this is a dummy view that will make sure the dialog is highest -->
   <View
       android:layout_width="match_parent"
       android:layout_height="match_parent"
       android:layout_weight="1"/>

</LinearLayout>

注意LinearLayout属性中的android:weightSum="1"和dummy View属性中的android:layout_weight="1"

上面的许多答案都很好，但没有一个对我完全有效。所以我结合@nmr的答案得到了这个。

final Dialog d = new Dialog(getActivity());
        //  d.getWindow().setBackgroundDrawable(R.color.action_bar_bg);
        d.requestWindowFeature(Window.FEATURE_NO_TITLE);
        d.setContentView(R.layout.dialog_box_shipment_detail);

        WindowManager wm = (WindowManager) getActivity().getSystemService(Context.WINDOW_SERVICE); // for activity use context instead of getActivity()
        Display display = wm.getDefaultDisplay(); // getting the screen size of device
        Point size = new Point();
        display.getSize(size);
        int width = size.x - 20;  // Set your heights
        int height = size.y - 80; // set your widths

        WindowManager.LayoutParams lp = new WindowManager.LayoutParams();
        lp.copyFrom(d.getWindow().getAttributes());

        lp.width = width;
        lp.height = height;

        d.getWindow().setAttributes(lp);
        d.show();

你必须在显示之前设置对话框的高度和宽度(dialog.show())

所以，像这样做:

dialog.getWindow().setLayout(width, height);

//then

dialog.show()

下面的方法对我来说效果不错:

    <style name="MyAlertDialogTheme" parent="Base.Theme.AppCompat.Light.Dialog.Alert">
        <item name="windowFixedWidthMajor">90%</item>
        <item name="windowFixedWidthMinor">90%</item>
    </style>

(注:windowMinWidthMajor/Minor，如之前的答案所建议的，没有做到这一点。我的对话框不断改变大小取决于内容)

然后:

AlertDialog.Builder builder = new AlertDialog.Builder(getActivity(), R.style.MyAlertDialogTheme);

只要给AlertDialog这个主题

<style name="DialogTheme" parent="Theme.MaterialComponents.Light.Dialog.MinWidth">
    <item name="colorPrimary">@color/colorPrimary</item>
    <item name="android:windowMinWidthMajor">90%</item>
    <item name="android:windowMinWidthMinor">90%</item>
</style>

    ...
    AlertDialog.Builder builder = new AlertDialog.Builder(getActivity());
    Dialog d = builder.create(); //create Dialog
    d.show(); //first show

    DisplayMetrics metrics = new DisplayMetrics(); //get metrics of screen
    getActivity().getWindowManager().getDefaultDisplay().getMetrics(metrics);
    int height = (int) (metrics.heightPixels*0.9); //set height to 90% of total
    int width = (int) (metrics.widthPixels*0.9); //set width to 90% of total

    d.getWindow().setLayout(width, height); //set layout